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Maybe it’s just where I’m at in life, but I’m fascinated with the topic of change. We so often want the result, but without having to do the work or go through the pain or learning to get there. So, instead, we act afraid of change. But we still want the result.
Change is painful because we don’t know what’s on the other side of… There’s also the starkly terrifying feeling of making oneself vulnerable: to love, to need, to want. You have these great, toughening experiences growing up that inoculate you against stupid, life-squelching hazards like walking off a cliff or setting yourself on fire, but a side effect is toughening up. That excellent scar tissue that builds up to protect you from the bad stuff can keep you from accessing so much of the good stuff.
Colleen Wainwright, Judging and contracting and my old friend, Shame
